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FA Program Gives Mother-of-the-Bride Hope and Freedom from Shame

May 3, 2018 10:23 pm Published by

When Catherine’s son got married, she was over 200 pounds (90.7k) and had to wear a dress in a size that she hoped never to see again. She was ashamed that she could not lose weight for such an important event.

When it was time for her daughter’s wedding, she found herself in the same situation. She had been dieting for nearly a year and had gone from hovering between 201 to 203 (91.1 to 92 k) pounds to 207 (93.9 k) pounds. Her daughter had helped her pick out a special designer dress for the wedding nearly a year before. She had to lose 10 to 15 (4.5 to 6.8 k) pounds to fit into it and no idea how.

A friend had been telling Catherine about FA for months. She had dismissed it because she’d tried other diet programs and failed. However, now faced with the upcoming wedding, she went to an FA meeting. She wondered if the attendees would understand how trapped she felt, how obsessed she was with food, and how she used food to get through the day. Hearing their stories and seeing how happy they were, gave Catherine hope. A woman offered to be Catherine’s sponsor. She agreed to call the woman the following day.

Using the FA food plan and many of the tools, Catherine lost 15 pounds (6.8 k), wore the designer dress at her daughter’s wedding, and was abstinent the entire wedding Eating Disorder help for mother trying to fit into a dressweekend.

It has been six years since her daughter’s wedding, and Catherine has maintained a weight loss of 85 pounds (38.5 k). She is abstinent, surrounded by a fellowship and fellows who talk openly about the challenges and joys of life. Her relationships with family and friends grow better everyday. She enjoys her life, travels, and has a job that she feels makes a difference in people’s lives.

The dress, as beautiful as it was, is long gone. It was sold in a consignment shop because it was way too big for Catherine’s petite, size four body.

“The miracles are many,” Catherine says. “They happen every day, as long as I am willing to work for and notice them. I am grateful that I found FA. It has truly changed my life, and I have witnessed these same changes in so many others.

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A Simple Life, 2018

May 2, 2018 6:33 pm Published by

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Robin Now Eats Only What She Has Committed, Accepts Life’s Challenges, and Has Overcome Self-Doubt

April 15, 2018 10:42 pm Published by

Robin attended her first Food Addicts in Recovery (FA) meeting begrudgingly. She was angry and humiliated that she had to go to what she called, “group therapy for fat people.” She weighed 243 pounds (110.2 k). Her strategy was to get the food plan, attend meetings long enough to lose weight, and then vanish. Six years later, Robin is still in FA and enjoying life in a right-sized body.

Robin remains in FA because she is happier now than she has ever been. Not only is she is able to eat just what she commits to eating everyday, but FA has given her the ability to accept challenges, overcome self-doubt, and make decisions that truly support her recovery from food addiction. She has had the courage to move overseas with her family for her husband’s career, uncover her long-lost singing talent, join her church choir, and perform in public. She sings regularly at karaoke night, no longer afraid of what people will think.

More importantly, Robin is able to be a loving mom to her children, and show up at important events in their lives. She has been able to reconnect with her siblings, letting go of painful memories from the past, and forge new and loving relationships with them.

Robin knows that FA is about more than food. While she sees her weight loss as a miracle, she is grateful for all she is learning about people and relationships and how to navigate them. She is learning how to make and have friends. She sees her life getting better every year. She no longer wants to vanish. Instead, Robin plans on sticking with FA for a long, long time.

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Serenity, 2018

April 1, 2018 8:44 pm Published by

April, 2018 is in! Take a deep breath and remember the serenity prayer.

“God, grand me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.”

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Food abstinence plan for you when you travel or are away from home – from FA.

Food Addiction and Dealing with Unpredictable Travel Plans

March 30, 2018 10:43 pm Published by

As Margaret sat in an airplane on a runway in Boston, she began looking forward to getting home to California by noon and having an abstinent lunch with her fiancé. Suddenly, her travel plans were interrupted when the wing of her plane was hit by a plane on a neighboring runway. Margaret would not be arriving home for her lunch date.

While waiting to depart on another airplane, Margaret called her mother, and was impressed when her mother, who had not always shown support for the FA program, asked if she had planned ahead, and had prepared a lunch for the trip home. Margaret was pleased that her mother had come to realize how important abstinence was to her.

Margaret did have her lunch with her, but not her dinner. As she boarded another plane, Margaret called her FA sponsor, explained the circumstances, and said she was sure she’d land in time to get to a restaurant for dinner. The sponsor did not agree, and suggested Margaret pick up an abstinent meal at the airport as soon as she landed.

Best plan and help for dealing with food obsession addictions when traveling.

Margaret’s flight landed late in the day. It was a Sunday, and all the restaurants had abbreviated menus. Fortunately, Margaret was able to reach her sponsor on the phone again to get guidance on what to purchase for dinner.

This experience taught Margaret that travel is unpredictable. Now, even when just taking a day trip a few miles from home, she takes along all of her meals for the day. As a food addict, she finds peace of mind in knowing that her abstinent food is at the ready.

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Father and husband family relations with food obsessions.

Family Man Priority: Improving as a Father

March 21, 2018 3:43 pm Published by

For 12 years Jeremy had been clean and sober, actively working the steps in Narcotics Anonymous. However, he had not been able to overcome his food addiction and was resigned to a life of obesity.

When Jeremy was introduced to Food Addicts in Recovery Anonymous (FA), he weighed 482 pounds (about 219 kilograms). Finding an FA group gave him hope about his food addiction for the first time. That first meeting turned out be life changing. He was relieved there was a place for him.

As a married man, Jeremy’s family, and especially his children, were his priority, but his weight had prevented him from participating in many family activities. After two months in FA, Jeremy was able to go to a football game and handle all the walking and standing involved. He even felt good the next day and was looking forward to going to more games!

The second month in FA also saw another milestone. Jeremy could play basketball with his 12- and 13-year-old sons at the park and go swimming with them. He hadn’t been in the pool in 10 years. His sons were delighted to have their dad spending outdoor time with them. Jeremy was doing so well that he even went on a family camping trip. His family commented on the fact that he had a positive attitude about camping, unlike the negativity they’d experienced previously due to his addictions.

Jeremy believes his positive outlook, his increased activity level, and the decrease in his pain are all a result of the effectiveness of FA. He is now under 400 pounds and no longer believes he will be fat forever. It’s because of FA that Jeremy’s family relations have improved. He is truly capable now of taking on the role of devoted father and family man.

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Bing eating can be overcome

Binge Eating is An Addiction That Can Be Understood and Overcome

March 11, 2018 3:50 pm Published by

How to Stop Sugar and Flour Addiction Disorders Through FA

Almost every member of Food Addicts in Recovery Anonymous (FA) has a story of struggles and success. One of our members, Mary, recently told her story in an interview on WHPC, the radio station of Nassau Community College in Garden City, New York. She shared her journey from being obsessed with food as a child, to a binge-eating addiction as a teen and young adult, to joining Food Addicts in Recovery Anonymous (FA), where she realized that she didn’t have a weight problem but, rather, a food problem.

Mary has been a member of FA for 30 years, from the time she was 20 years old. Her childhood memories include stealing money from her mom’s change purse to buy junk food. Her favorite purchases were those made of sugar and flour, especially candy and sugary cereals. When she was 13 years old and tragedy struck her family with the sudden death of her older brother, food was her comfort.

A Binge Eating Addiction

By the time she was 17 years old, she was five-foot-three-inches tall and weighed 200 pounds. Mary felt unhappy, but compensated by creating a big personality and being “large and in charge.” She had many friends, did well in school, and went to an Ivy League college. However, while she seemed to have it all together on the outside, inside she was bottling up her feelings, and was ashamed of the fact that she was binge eating.  She tried numerous programs to lose weight, from diets to yoga to holistic health efforts, but nothing worked.

“I didn’t have will power, and it tortured me, but I didn’t talk to anyone,” she says.

Discovering Food Addicts

Eventually Mary found people to talk to when she attended an FA meeting. She related to everything people at the meeting were talking about, and learned that her issues with food were an addiction, that sugar and flour are drugs for some people, including herself. She also learned that she wasn’t using food for fuel, but to distance herself from her feelings.

FA has been a success for Mary.  She lost 80 pounds 30 years ago and has kept the weight off.

She says that people ask her why she doesn’t go it on her own without FA now that she’s maintained her weight for so many years.

“I believe I still have a food addiction,” Mary says. “FA is a fellowship, a wonderful community of people who care about each other, and now I can get through stressful times without using food to escape stress.”

More Information

Click here for Mary’s complete interview on WHPC “Your Family’s Health” and other radio interviews.

Click here to learn more about “connection” magazine which features more of our members’ stories.

Learn more about our resources for binge-eating addiction and other eating disorders.

 


 

Turn it Over, March 2018

March 8, 2018 7:33 pm Published by

You know what they say…If you turn it over without letting go, you’re upside down! God’s in charge.

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“Much Room” for Growth, January/February 2018

January 11, 2018 8:08 pm Published by

Happy New Year! Take a peek inside the first edition of 2018!

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Let Go and Let God, December 2017

December 7, 2017 11:59 pm Published by

December’s issue is here! Winter and holiday times can be tough for a lot of food addicts. Let the connection warm your heart on a cold day. Take it with you and use it when you need a pick-me-up!

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